This week we have explored sensitivity. Sensitivity is an awareness and understanding of how other people are feeling. The victim of sex abuse absolutely has sensitivity - an often heightened and distorted sense of sensitivity. For example she is sensitive to:
- The nuances of the perpetrator: They are sensitive to such things as movements and breathing; always vigilant to sense the mood shifts in anticipation of the actions of the person who hurts them.
- The nuances of even "safe people". On guard to protect themselves from rejection or possible hurt, they are sensitive to body language, i.e. facial expressions, breathing, tone; anticipating what they might need to do to protect themselves.
- The escape route in the room: Sensitive to where the door is, perhaps choosing to face it in order to have a sense of power.
- Sensitive to read people in a room; who appears to be a danger; who might be safe.
When the victim of sex abuse does the work of recognizing how a character trait has been hijacked, they then have power to shift it - clean it off - and gain the freedom to connect to their authentic identity in the purpose and design in which it was formed.
Freedom to have access to all aspects of identity and live out of their authentic purpose is AMAZING!