Thursday, February 11, 2010

You can't be a survivor without being a victim.

We don't like being called a victim - and yet the person touched by sex abuse is that - a victim. Saying "I'm a survivor" is not more empowering than saying "I'm a victim".  Victims have more power to get freedom than survivors do because victims remain in touch with the reality of the trauma impact.  When the victim quickly becomes a survivor and jumps from the point of impact directly to claiming the status of being a survivor, they jump over a whole set of emtoions, needs, thought processes and confusion.  One can't become a survivor without knowing what they survived - you have to know the impact and work that through!