We appreciate the work of Caroline Myss, who offers the term, "woundology" to describe the reality that victims typically redefine their lives around their wounds in a process of accepting them. These 4 myths come from her work. To help you explore them, we have added our "fill-in-the-blanks" worksheet.
Myth #1: My life is defined by my wound.
To release the grip of this myth you must take more responsibility for the quality of your life.
"Sometimes I make excuses for why I am not focusing on doing more positive things in my life such as (be specific) ________________________________. The excuse I use most often is _____________________________________. There are times I compare my history of wounds because _________________________________________. If I feel more wounded than someone else, I often feel more empowered because____________________________________________."
Myth #2: Being healthy means being alone.
"I am afraid that if I heal, my support people will___________________________
When I picture myself as healed I see _______________________________ with me.
Emotional wounds may be a source of bonding with others and healing from those wounds may mean__________________________________________________."
Myth #3: Feeling pain means being destroyed by pain.
"I hold onto my pain because ________________________________________. If I process the pain and release it, I will lose _________________________________ and I will gain________________________________________________________."
No one particularly likes the
process of change. Yet, healing and change are the same thing. We
cannot heal without first investigating what behavioral patterns and
attitudes we need to alter. Once these characteristics are identified,
we have to DO something about them. Willingness and action bring about
change that results in healing. You have to want it more than you want
the "safety of the norm" you think you walk in. It requires
Myth #4: True Change is Impossible
"I often don't believe change is possible because _____________________________.
It is also possible I am hoping change is not possible so I don't have to deal with
__________________________ or take responsibility to begin to ________________
Consider checking out our Connections Community online - to get the skills necessary to overcome and the support needed while you change!
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