How we use words makes all the difference in how we shape the world around us. If you've been hanging with me for any length of time you already know that I ask questions to highlight how the words we use can set a direction or thought we didn't intend.
I'm known for challenging the use of the word prevention. For me the word has a subtle undertone that says: "Sex abuse exists in our culture, but don't worry, I'm going to do everything I can to keep it from touching you." That means I have passively accepted that it exists. I use the term "Zero Tolerance" as that is what I'm after!
Now I'm spending time looking at how we "do" prevention. The Center for Disease Control and other high visible agencies working on preventing sex abuse have said that sex abuse is a "public health issue". Hmmmm.....I find some inherent difficulties in that framework.
Typically when I hear that something is a "public health issue", I'm programmed to believe that if I get the right medication, or shot or follow a prescription, I can get better. If I have not experienced this public health issue, then I have no need to pay attention or get involved. So, first, we haven't done a very good job of talking about "why" sex abuse is a public health issue. I don't think the average person has any real clue about how sex abuse impacts the culture.
Secondly, the subtle message in a public health model is that whoever is involved in this public health issue will be the one who does what is necessary to "get better." They will get the shot or the prescription. They will fix it. This thinking keeps the collective community from seeing it as something we should all address. This framework allows for individualistic complacency and passivity, it does not build capacity for a community response.
Let's use stronger language! Why don't we call it what it is? A CRIME! A crime against the human spirit! A crime against the possibility and potential of people!
When we call it what it is, perhaps we can ignite the movement to fight against it.
I'm with you on that Rebecca. Abuse is a CRIME. We have to stop pussy-footing around to protect the perps! What about the victims! And that's why I made my story public! He should have been locked up. He died with his secret intact. How is that fair?
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I agree. Sex abuse is a crime. One of the worst of crimes. I 've spent years and years coming to terms with it and as far as I know my abusers are still abusing. There needs to be justice and a huge culture change that makes it clear that children are sacred, not property to do with what you will.
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