Does it bug you like it does me? The use of the word "alleged" when a perpetrator is identified? I understand the concept of our justice system - don't think it works well - but I understand the concept. I don't think that the court jargon should be mandated outside the courtroom.
An alleged victim - The alleged perpetrator - Are you serious?
We know the crime of sex abuse is shrouded in silence and secrecy. That alone messes with someones perspective. Then add to that the reality that the mother who volunteers at PTA, bakes cookies for the class parties and checks on the elderly neighbor is the same mother who comes in at night and molests! Living in both worlds leaves a victim wondering if her truth is just an unfounded allegation. Gut instincts become blurred and the loss of a major safety indicator; one's gut instincts, becomes crippled.
Don't get hung up on if your memories or experiences are validated. That will stall your progress in restoration. Whether it happened the way you remember or not is not the issue. What it did to your heart and spirit is.
You know your truth! You may never have it confirmed. You may never have complete recall; but your know your truth! You see the impact in your thinking, behaviors and heart. You know what happened to you. And in that knowing, accepting it as fact, lies the power to undo the damage.
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